Brown Card of the MonthBronze God
In what ways this week have you done things to support the “real” you? On the other hand, have you acted because you thought you needed to please someone else, because you thought you “should” or because you didn’t spend much time reflecting on what the “authentic you really wanted?
In the fable, a young man named Darnel exhibits a lot of the qualities generally associated with the color brown: he’s
dependable, reliable, down-to-earth, and he’s there for everyone in his family. After the death of his father, “For his mother, he had to listen and be successful, and for the youngest, Chantal, he made sure she paid attention to
her studies. For his middle sister, Lashan, he stayed on her to do her chores for Momma. And, for the oldest, LaDonna, he was a sounding board about boys.”
Only one problem in Darnel’s life but it turns out to be a big one.
Darnel as the “bronze god” has become pretty rigid and has stopped paying attention to his own needs. Taking on the father role early, he’s become great at cultivating responsibility but he’s forgotten—and come to the point that he doesn’t even want to hear—that his needs matter too.
“He paused when he reached the neighborhood park and
watched the children playing. His sisters had played here many times, but he never had. …. Darnel slid down behind a tree, alone, and cried.”…
Taking action without connecting to how you really feel about engaging those actions? Putting the needs of others first? Even demeaning any need to spend carefree time?
In and of itself, there’s nothing wrong with any of this, and as is the case for Darnel, sometimes circumstances force roles on us we might not otherwise take on. But the fable
of Bronze God and the character of Darnel provide a poignant reminder that we
are at our best when our actions align with our authentic